So I’m going to start by saying, I am guilty of this! I, myself, and thousands of other girls have fallen into this state of mind and have done this at one point in their life, and so I’ll begin.
Point Blank: when we get into relationships and start losing our friends.
We, as girls, hit our breaking point and just want a guy in our lives. Some girls form of “want” turns into desperation, which saddens me, while others of us just simply want a guy, because we’re human. Here’s the big issue though, girls that get to be so desperate to find a guy that they end up ditching their girls to get the guy. I can understand if a really nice, attractive guy asks you out, and there has been no red flags or reasons to turn him down and you say accept his request for a date. However, the date he picks happens to be the same day with a girlfriend so you have to cancel, with the right intentions to cancel, I’m sure your friend would be understanding. But there’s a different between once and several times. I think we often forget who was there for us in the beginning; the girls. You can be dating or even married to the most fantastic guy in the world, but to forget your girlfriends because of it, isn’t right. No I’m not speaking out of jealousy of girls who have a relationship, I’m speaking from a girl whose done it to her own friends and has had it done to her. You need your girls, because your man is going to fail you at times, and you’ll have your low moments and when you do, it’s your girls that your going to turn to. You can still have ladies nights when your in a relationship, matter of fact I recommend it. It makes your nights alone with your man more special and your friends being joy to your life too.
No matter how old you are and you feel rushed to find a man, don’t forget your ladies when you get the chance to meet a guy. Your relationship with your man is important, but so is the one with your girls, don’t forget that!
“Stand by your man, but sit with your girlfriends…”